OUR CHILDREN –OUR MOST VALUED POSSESSION
- CHURCH OF THE LIVING GOD
- May 20
- 4 min read
Updated: Sep 22
Writer - A. E. Fisher
How many of us have admired the innocence and purity of a child. Children are pure in thoughts until they are corrupted by adults. They have confidence in their caregivers and is very loving even to those who are unkind to them. Children do not hold grudges nor malice. Jesus drew our attention to their purity when He said if we do not act like little children, we cannot enter eternal life. Children give joy; they make life worth living. Psa. 127: 3-5 tells that they are heritage from God and happy is the man whose quiver is filled with them.
Many have misinterpreted this text and believe that persons should just produce children without planning for them or being able to provide adequately for them. If you are honestly only capable of carrying a quiver with one, then your quiver is full while another man’s quiver can honestly carry fifteen, let him produce his fifteen. Each of us can only carry what we are capable of managing as God designs us individually. Only then can we enjoy children as blessings which should be enjoyed, guided, loved and protected according to God’s instructions.
Parenting is a skill which we continuously learn. We learn from each other, from our mistakes and from our challenges. It is God’s desire that we be good parents therefore He is willing to guide us if we allow Him. Here are a few pointers which parents should practise.
teach your child sound and godly values and principles
Recognise your responsibility as a parent
Praise your child and also constructively offer criticism and guidance
Avoid damaging criticism
Be assertive yet kind
Control your temper; do not be abusive
Instill discipline fairly
Be consistent and enforce the rules you made for good
Listen to your children; guide them as they struggle with youthful exuberance
Encourage responsibility and diligence
Spend quality time with your children
Spend equal time with each child; avoid favouritism
Be a role model; be a teacher by word and example.
Children need love and attention. They must be taught about the love of God. They should attend Church where they will be taught about God’s goodness and His marvelous plan of salvation. Children live what they learn therefore it is imperative that you give them a solid biblical foundation. How we treat our children influences what they become. It’s a fact that some children go contrary to their good upbringing while others are badly reared yet they develop into good outstanding adults.
Although there are many factors which influence children’s behaviour- parents are the most influential. Parents should demonstrate the actions and values which they want their children to embrace. Values inclusive of: honesty, compassion, love, dedication, hard work and generosity. Surround your home and life with others who can serve as role models to your children. Keeping your children around people who are a good influence will help you be a better parent.
Some parents do not readily display emotions. As a parent you ought to share affection with your children. Let your children understand and appreciate the warmth and security that comes from touches, hugs, kisses and cuddles. Spend quality time listen to your children; listen even when they are not speaking. Daily you ought to grow in understanding your children; better communication always lead to better parenting. Help your children to develop and use their decision-making skills so that they can function in diverse situations.
Parents ought not to compete against each other for their children affection. Instead, they should stand in solidarity and speak with one mind. Parents ought to love their children unconditionally and never compare them to others or make them into. Do not use your love for them as a weapon to get them to do as you desire.
Express interest in your children and involve yourself in their lives. Create and maintain an atmosphere in which they can share their concerns with you. Guide them properly. Your children should be very familiar with the consequences of their actions.
In addition, teach children how to be industrious and responsible by giving them duties; instill a sense of belonging in them. Give them security. Do not argue with your spouse in the presence of the children. Children may feel insecure and fearful when they hear parents bickering. In addition, children will learn to argue with each other the same way they hear their parents argue with each other. Show them that when people disagree, they can discuss their differences peacefully. Be a godly role model to your children.
Writer - A. E. Fisher
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